I have to talk about this one tonite because it bothers me. Children should not be dating. They should be taught the importance of not moving from boy to boy or from girl to girl at a young age. Dating is courtship, courtship should be leading to a serious commitment...marriage. A child cannot get married. They can't even comprehend the idea of a life long commitment when they are allowed to move from person to person, handing themselves off to whomever looks their way. There is no way they can learn how to have a lasting relationship through the good times and bad times when they break up and date someone new every other week.
I didn't date simply because I was told NO. There was never any reason other than, "because I said so." Mom and Dad divorced when I was about 13 and I got stuck with my mom who didn't teach me anything but bitterness. I have no doubt I would have never gotten mixed up with my ex-husband if I had been taught the importance of a relationship. That 2 people should compliment each other. Be one together and be strong together. A relationship should be about building a better life and achieving goals that mean something to you as a couple. I am very lucky to have found someone who helped me understand this. We are one and we make each other stronger.
A girl or boy of 12, 13, 14 etc is just not going to be able to understand that. Not to mention at that age they are still being cared for by their parents and there is simply no need to have someone else to take care of you. You can't even really take care of yourself without an adult at that age. You are still learning your strengths and weaknesses. You still don't know who you are. How can you honestly know at that age if another child is going to strengthen you? What do you really have to offer that the parents aren't already providing? A women provides a clean home, soft shoulder for ones head, meals and tender hands to care for children. A man provides income, a firm voice in important matters, he is a role model to his children, he keeps his family safe. Children cannot offer any of these things, because they are still children running to their mother's shoulder, still children being protected by their fathers.
It should not be ok for a parent to watch and allow their child to date one kid this week and a new one next week. It should NOT be ok to watch their daughter be treated like a pass around nor their sons being disrespectful by passing said girls around. What are we teaching our girls? That it is not important to have some self respect and dignity? That it is ok to just move from boy to boy and not think a thing about it? Our boys, what is being taught to them? That it is ok to have a harem of girls? That anything lasting is not worth it? These actions are going to follow them into adulthood and seriously impair their ability to find someone and hold onto them. They are going to give themselves away who knows how many times before getting married. Nothing will be special when that day comes. Then if they do ever get married, what are the chances they will stay together? What's to say they decide that it is easier to just pack bags and find someone else based on what they learned in their past?
I want my kids to know there is someone out there that needs them. They don't need to play the field as a child to find that person. I want them to be selective and careful about who they choose to promise the rest of their lives to, because I really want it to be a one time thing for them. I want them to really have an understanding of the importance of love and what it means. What it does to life, the wonders of it, the trials of it. Love is not easy, but it's not hard. It's full filling. You aren't going to get that by voluntarily being a pass around. You won't be able to appreciate one person for who they are without comparing them to all the people before them. No one deserves that.
Get a handle on your kids now. Teach them that marriage and the relationship that leads to it is a sacred thing and should not be taken for granted, that it is not found after the 100th person you dated. Teach them to be kids now and teach them the responsibility they will have to a spouse. Prepare them by example, give them something to look up to, something to desire because it is such a good thing. Leave no question in their eyes about the importance of a mature, healthy relationship. Your kids will thank you for it.
Wednesday, April 27, 2011
Sheila's Wifey Wednesday
Sheila over at To Love, Honor, and Vacuum posts things about being a good wife every Wednesday. I thought today's post was interesting, it's about wives fantasizing about other men. Particularly famous men, sports players, actors, etc. Also the subject of women preferring a friends husband to her own for whatever reason.
I have no crush on any famous person nor do I on anyone else's husband for that matter. Ya I might get all excited about Gerard Butler in a kilt, but that's about as far as it goes. Even then I think that was a one time thing during a very boring night when Skip was deployed. I don't march around the house declaring how much I am "in love" with someone I will never meet. It seems pretty pointless to me. Also pretty childlike. I love Skip and that's that. Aiden certainly doesn't need to see or hear that.
My mom is like this about Johnny Depp. ( I had to look that up to spell it right) She has her WHOLE office covered with pictures of him, posters you name it. She runs out and gets every DVD as soon as it is out and just moons over him. IN FRONT OF HER HUSBAND. And what's worse is he has even played into it by buying her some of those things. I just don't get it. Skip wouldn't tolerate that. I also wouldn't tolerate that from him.
Maybe women should just turn off their TV's, quit comparing their husbands to other men and start wanting the thing's they already have. When you fantasize about things you don't have in your relationship, it makes it easier to think your relationship is bad. It makes you want more and more. It strains things and makes your spouse think he (or she for that matter) has to live up to expectations that may not be deliverable for the life situation you are in.
So ladies make a point of always saying once nice thing to your husband everyday. Make a point about saying nice things about him in public. Lead your lady friends by example. Stop listening when they complain about their relationship, guide them back to their husbands to deal with their situation in private. This way maybe they can start the process of being as madly head over heals about their husbands as they are about their celebrity crushes.
I have no crush on any famous person nor do I on anyone else's husband for that matter. Ya I might get all excited about Gerard Butler in a kilt, but that's about as far as it goes. Even then I think that was a one time thing during a very boring night when Skip was deployed. I don't march around the house declaring how much I am "in love" with someone I will never meet. It seems pretty pointless to me. Also pretty childlike. I love Skip and that's that. Aiden certainly doesn't need to see or hear that.
My mom is like this about Johnny Depp. ( I had to look that up to spell it right) She has her WHOLE office covered with pictures of him, posters you name it. She runs out and gets every DVD as soon as it is out and just moons over him. IN FRONT OF HER HUSBAND. And what's worse is he has even played into it by buying her some of those things. I just don't get it. Skip wouldn't tolerate that. I also wouldn't tolerate that from him.
Maybe women should just turn off their TV's, quit comparing their husbands to other men and start wanting the thing's they already have. When you fantasize about things you don't have in your relationship, it makes it easier to think your relationship is bad. It makes you want more and more. It strains things and makes your spouse think he (or she for that matter) has to live up to expectations that may not be deliverable for the life situation you are in.
So ladies make a point of always saying once nice thing to your husband everyday. Make a point about saying nice things about him in public. Lead your lady friends by example. Stop listening when they complain about their relationship, guide them back to their husbands to deal with their situation in private. This way maybe they can start the process of being as madly head over heals about their husbands as they are about their celebrity crushes.
Sunday, April 24, 2011
Week 2 Check In
Well, we now have 2 weeks under our belts with only a couple set backs. We had the ball on Thursday. At the time we RSVP'd we were not yet going grain free and so I ordered pasta...yikes. Skip had chicken, but he dared to have a dinner role. We also had cheesecake. Neither of us drank and we had water with dinner. Skip did wake up with a headache on Friday...interesting that he would eat grain and get a headache less than 24 hours later. He hasn't had one since we started.
Our other weakness this week was ice cream. We haven't completely cut out ice cream because frankly we don't want to torture ourselves. But instead of only eating it once or twice, I think we had it 4-5 times. Soooo that was bad. We talked about that this morning.
Well onto the results. I did have a gain of 2lbs, but a loss of 1/2 inch on my waste and my fasting glucose level was down to 110mg from 133mg last week.
Skip had a loss of about 1/2lb, lost 1inch from his waist. His fasting glucose level was 128mg down from 133mg last week.
We still go to bed late, but find that we are sleeping better now. Not near as much tossing and turning. We haven't been waking up feeling cloudy and have the ability to get out day going without really wanting to get back into bed.
So while we still cheated with ice cream and once nite of indulgence on the town, we still had results from practicing being grain free the rest of time.
Our other weakness this week was ice cream. We haven't completely cut out ice cream because frankly we don't want to torture ourselves. But instead of only eating it once or twice, I think we had it 4-5 times. Soooo that was bad. We talked about that this morning.
Well onto the results. I did have a gain of 2lbs, but a loss of 1/2 inch on my waste and my fasting glucose level was down to 110mg from 133mg last week.
Skip had a loss of about 1/2lb, lost 1inch from his waist. His fasting glucose level was 128mg down from 133mg last week.
We still go to bed late, but find that we are sleeping better now. Not near as much tossing and turning. We haven't been waking up feeling cloudy and have the ability to get out day going without really wanting to get back into bed.
So while we still cheated with ice cream and once nite of indulgence on the town, we still had results from practicing being grain free the rest of time.
Friday, April 22, 2011
Trashy
First off let me say this post is probably going to sound very judgmental and I may sound stuck up or too good for my own shoes. But I am going to call things as I see them.
I attended my first Army Ball last nite. It was the welcome home ball for the 601st Combat Aviation Brigade. They have been gone on a year long deployment and finished returning last month. I have never been to a formal event, but it is my understanding that being formal means looking like a respectable lady. After all our men are in their best uniforms for the evening, bow tie and all. Skip and I picked my dress in February, yes I said SKIP AND I. I very much appreciated his input on the different dresses I picked and tried on. We decided on a floor length, dark blue dress with some sparkle sewn on to the bodice. It was strapless, but had a short coat. The girls were WELL covered and not overflowing out the top. I had no intention of standing out, simply looking nice next to Skip.
All that being said, I fully expected to be under dressed. I did get my hair done yesterday. I had a new set of earrings, a necklace and bracelet. Oh and I had a nice head band worked into my hair. When we got to the hotel the ball was being held at I was immediately floored. The few girls in the parking lot were simply eye ball spectacles. Very immodest and in dresses that simply did nothing for their body type. One woman was in a hot pink, clingy, strapless dress and she probably weighed 300lbs. I am not trying to say anything about size here, but there are just some things you don't where when you are super big or even super small for that matter. It's about practicing good judgement.
When we got in I was amazed by the amount of skin I saw and the all the tattoos on these women. I am not even talking girly tattoos. There were girls who had their arms, backs, hands, necks, breasts and any other small piece of skin they could have possibly showed covered in ugliness. I would say more than half didn't bother to have their hair done. More than half had ill fitted dresses. Some had on dresses that one would wear to a cocktail party, not a formal event. I almost felt out of place, but I soon realized I at least wasn't going to be a laughing stock and was more than likely one the best dressed there. Even the wives of the heads of the unit appeared to have put in very little effort.
We did get seated with 4 other men and their dates for dinner. I was the only one NOT texting through dinner. My phone wasn't on the table vibrating. It was sad really that no one could just take the time to disconnect from the world for just a few hours. Skip and I were pretty quiet. Most of the conversation was nothing we could relate to. Skip was the oldest at the table and I am aged beyond my actual years anyways. There is no way I could hang out with any of those girls and feel like I got anything out of it.
My concluding thought on the whole thing was, most of the women dressed and conducted themselves little better than trash. This was a formal event to welcome back service members that just spent a year away from home and their families. I felt like most of these girls, through the way they dressed and acted, showed little to no respect, gratitude or pride in what the unit did. It should not be ok to any man to let his wife, fiancée, girlfriend sister or whatever walk into such an event looking like last weeks garbage. It's disrespectful and should be considered a slap in the face.
I attended my first Army Ball last nite. It was the welcome home ball for the 601st Combat Aviation Brigade. They have been gone on a year long deployment and finished returning last month. I have never been to a formal event, but it is my understanding that being formal means looking like a respectable lady. After all our men are in their best uniforms for the evening, bow tie and all. Skip and I picked my dress in February, yes I said SKIP AND I. I very much appreciated his input on the different dresses I picked and tried on. We decided on a floor length, dark blue dress with some sparkle sewn on to the bodice. It was strapless, but had a short coat. The girls were WELL covered and not overflowing out the top. I had no intention of standing out, simply looking nice next to Skip.
All that being said, I fully expected to be under dressed. I did get my hair done yesterday. I had a new set of earrings, a necklace and bracelet. Oh and I had a nice head band worked into my hair. When we got to the hotel the ball was being held at I was immediately floored. The few girls in the parking lot were simply eye ball spectacles. Very immodest and in dresses that simply did nothing for their body type. One woman was in a hot pink, clingy, strapless dress and she probably weighed 300lbs. I am not trying to say anything about size here, but there are just some things you don't where when you are super big or even super small for that matter. It's about practicing good judgement.
When we got in I was amazed by the amount of skin I saw and the all the tattoos on these women. I am not even talking girly tattoos. There were girls who had their arms, backs, hands, necks, breasts and any other small piece of skin they could have possibly showed covered in ugliness. I would say more than half didn't bother to have their hair done. More than half had ill fitted dresses. Some had on dresses that one would wear to a cocktail party, not a formal event. I almost felt out of place, but I soon realized I at least wasn't going to be a laughing stock and was more than likely one the best dressed there. Even the wives of the heads of the unit appeared to have put in very little effort.
We did get seated with 4 other men and their dates for dinner. I was the only one NOT texting through dinner. My phone wasn't on the table vibrating. It was sad really that no one could just take the time to disconnect from the world for just a few hours. Skip and I were pretty quiet. Most of the conversation was nothing we could relate to. Skip was the oldest at the table and I am aged beyond my actual years anyways. There is no way I could hang out with any of those girls and feel like I got anything out of it.
My concluding thought on the whole thing was, most of the women dressed and conducted themselves little better than trash. This was a formal event to welcome back service members that just spent a year away from home and their families. I felt like most of these girls, through the way they dressed and acted, showed little to no respect, gratitude or pride in what the unit did. It should not be ok to any man to let his wife, fiancée, girlfriend sister or whatever walk into such an event looking like last weeks garbage. It's disrespectful and should be considered a slap in the face.
Wednesday, April 20, 2011
A Side Effect for Skip
Skip suffers from headaches. Almost daily. Always a dull ache in his head and he frequently can be seen sitting at the table holding his head in his hands. Neither of us take things for headaches unless it's just unbearable, but that doesn't happen very often. His vision has been checked, his teeth are fine. So we have been kind of at a loss about the headache thing.
BUT, this morning I had a sudden Ah-Ha moment. I was reading a status on FB from a friend who is very into all natural healing. Someone made a comment about their headaches going away after a serious diet change. Skip hasn't had a headache since we quit eating grains. It just dawned on me that he hasn't been complaining or holding his head. I told him my observation and he said," Well can I have some pizza and see if it comes back?".
NO. LOL. So that is really the first BIG thing I think I have seen with this. I will most definitely be monitoring it.
BUT, this morning I had a sudden Ah-Ha moment. I was reading a status on FB from a friend who is very into all natural healing. Someone made a comment about their headaches going away after a serious diet change. Skip hasn't had a headache since we quit eating grains. It just dawned on me that he hasn't been complaining or holding his head. I told him my observation and he said," Well can I have some pizza and see if it comes back?".
NO. LOL. So that is really the first BIG thing I think I have seen with this. I will most definitely be monitoring it.
Tuesday, April 19, 2011
Bracing for a visit from my mother....
Oh well it's that time again. A visit from Mom. I think the last she was here was in October for Aiden's birthday and I saw her in January when we had to go to Colorado for our family emergency. I love Mom, but I love the distance better sometimes. I haven't spoke with her much since before our trip to South Carolina and Virgina last month. She lied to me about my brother's condition with intent to still take Aiden for Spring break while my brother was having another heroin melt down. Not my idea of being a responsible and trustworthy grandparent.
In any case she will only be here a day and half before going home again. I hope to hang onto my sanity as best as I can. At least Skip is home now and she will be a little less brave about things. I hope.
Oh, I can't wait to make her eat grain free for the weekend. She is going to accuse me of having a malnourished kid. SWEET.
In any case she will only be here a day and half before going home again. I hope to hang onto my sanity as best as I can. At least Skip is home now and she will be a little less brave about things. I hope.
Oh, I can't wait to make her eat grain free for the weekend. She is going to accuse me of having a malnourished kid. SWEET.
Sunday, April 17, 2011
One Week Check In
It's officially been one week without grain. For me, it hasn't been all that difficult. For Skip, well I cannot say the same. Aiden has certainly noticed a difference and between him and Skip there has been plenty of food related whining. But in another week I think that will get better.
As for the results of week one, Skip lost 3.8lbs and I lost 4. I am down a 1/2 inch in my waist and Skip is down 1/4 of an inch. We added fasting blood sugar levels this morning and we were both in the mid 130's. Still not good on that front.
Skip suggested also cutting the starches this week. So no potatoes or rice. I will have to remind him that it was his idea. We will see what this next week brings!
As for the results of week one, Skip lost 3.8lbs and I lost 4. I am down a 1/2 inch in my waist and Skip is down 1/4 of an inch. We added fasting blood sugar levels this morning and we were both in the mid 130's. Still not good on that front.
Skip suggested also cutting the starches this week. So no potatoes or rice. I will have to remind him that it was his idea. We will see what this next week brings!
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